The Secret of Successful Marriage
One of the important factor to be happy in this world and hereafter is to have successful marriage. First to have a successful marriage, we must be clear on the purpose of marriage. Ask ourself for what reason we are getting married. Nowadays, happy marriages are declining because many couples cannot appreciate the true meaning of marriage.
Because sometimes they marry for wrong reasons. Some people want to get marry just to fulfill the physical desire. Physical desire cannot be the only reason for marriage. Some people get married to showcasing for the admiration of the people, some marrying the rich with the goal to remove their financial burden. Some get married to get the imigration status, to get the citizenship. Very few get married because of the purpose as Allah mentions in the Quran.
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ Ar Rum.21
And as of His Signs, He created mates for you from your souls that you may find rest in them. And He put between you love and mercy (compassion). Most surely there are Signs (proofs) in this for a people who reflect (reckon).
One should be ready mentally, spritually not physically only for marriage. Physical fulfillment is not the prime reason why Allah creates marriage and family for us. We need a soulmate from the opposite gender, (not from the same gender) who will continue the journey of life with us. Who can be our other half, who can integrate and complement us and be the true partner or true soul mate, true friend to help us, accompanying us for the rest of life to fulfill the purpose of creation.
So dearest young ladies and young men, make sure you have the right reason for marrying and if someone propose you for marriage, check their intention, you also need to be clear of your own intention, so that both of you do not fall in the pit of wrong marriage..
